Vernon Nash, my husband of 32 and life partner of 34 years died on Monday, 1st of July. This is a homage to him, with gratitude for our life together and with the contribution of friends and family, all of whom loved him dearly.
His last year, his last month
He was ill for some time, particularly since January. And, while in hospital, we used to text every day to say goodnight and good morning. This was our conversation on
Sunday, 16th June ‘19.
P. Have sweet dreams. V. Same to you dearest heart!xxxxx P. And appreciate and enjoy what you have xxxx V. Especially from you. I wish I’d spent more time saying nice things to you and paying more attention to my sweetheart! Xxxx P. Not only to me. You and I are very lucky for having each other, having the kids we have, the family we have and the Social Security we have. Be (sic) greatful! Xxx V. I am grateful. Not greatful. P. Sorry!!! I did find something weird in the spelling, ho, ho, ho! … something grating!!! V. “A” you’re adorable “B” you’re so beautiful “C” you’re a cutie full of charms “D” you’re a darling “E” you’re exciting “F” you’re a feth P. What’s a feth? V. Feather in my arms…rest of song tomorrow. P. OK. Sweet dreams
Monday, 17th June ’19
P. Good morning! Did you have a good night? V. Slept well. A tiny bit less rough. P. Good.
V. “G” you look good to me “H” it’s so heavenly “I” you’re the one I idolise “J” we’re like Jack and Jill “K” you’re so kissable “L” spells the lovelight in your eyes. “M. N.O. P.” I could go on all day. “Q.R.S.T.” Alphabetically speaking you’re ok. “U” make my life complete. “V” means you’re very sweet. “W.X.Y.Zee.” I love to wander through the alphabet with you to tell what you mean to me!
This is the song…soppy, but that’s the way he sometimes was…
The following week he got weaker and then, the week after he died. The journey we started together, including our common enterprise Sheffield Language Services or SLS Hallam-POPPIES, carries on because… You will always be in my heart (our hearts) and my (our) thoughts, dearest Vernon.
For Vernon, from Sue
How can I describe Vernon? Always on the ball, Forever curious and anxious to know more, Eager to tell me his latest story or discovery with that characteristic passion and enthusiasm...while playing his favourite music...or mine...he never forgot what that was... He knew something interesting about everything...and everything about so many things, A man of many talents, he was a musician, a linguist, a teacher, a writer. But for me, more than anything, he was a very dear friend... Vernon has left his mark on us all and he will be sorely missed, that is for sure... But let us celebrate his life and all he gave us... and let us smile fondly whenever we think of him... I know I will... Sue
Jane’s “set music to listen to” list
Vernon, the music lover and the teacher
That he loved music, was thoroughly knowledgeable about music -and many other issues- and was a born-teacher, most of the people who knew Vernon directly experienced and enjoyed. Here is the list he set for Jane one of the times she was visiting …
As requested, Vernon’s music recommendations for me. I’ll enjoy listening to them thinking of the happy times we had… It’s a treasured list -now I’d better get all the pieces together and listen to them…he’ll be looking down on me 🙂 nice for others to know his favourite classical music. Xxxx(Jane)
End of the first part of this homage to Vernon
I’ll end with another of our communications on
Wednesday, 19th June
P. Hi darling. How are you? I want you to know that I love you and I’m very grateful for all I have learnt with you and for the two sons we have. Xxxx
V. A bit more relaxed though groggy. I’m equally grateful to you for the half of your life you’ve devoted to me.
We were very fortunate to have the opportunity to say “So long” and “Farewell”.